What Happened To Dating?
This is a new project that I am working on with Paula Morris. Please check out the first article and feel free to comment!
 Brian J. T. Watts is an educational consultant and an administrator. He is the principal of an elementary school in Nashville and a public speaker who has spoken for youth, singles, married couples and mixed audiences.
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Committment Issues
Why do we humans have such problems with sticking to a task? I started this blog over a year ago, but I have not written a blog for many months. I thought that I would be a serial blogger by now, but I am not!
On a more positive note, I did just finish a 28 day committment of Black History posts on Facebook where I spotlighted my friends from elementary school, high school and college. I was proud to have actually stuck to a process that I started! How random is that?
Well let us get to the point! I have begun blogging again and I hope to have you as a reader on my future posts. I have been through a lot since I stopped blogging last year and my life and my ideals have changed drastically. I am on a path filled with purpose! I have recently written the foreward for a book authored by Mrs. Toni Ellis entitled: “God’s Dowry for His Daughters: His Good Treasure”. (All of you women need to buy this book! FOR REAL!) I have also started to co-author two other books (which I will tell you about when I can). I have been in a serious funk for the past 6 or 7 months but I can see the light now! I have awakened to a new existence and I am excited about the possibilities. I am working on a few projects with friends and I am attempting to put my school F. H. Jenkins on the map!!!! MY FEAR IS GONE!!!
Thats it! Fear is why we have committment issues! We fear we cannot complete a task or that we are not good enough for the assignment. When times get hard, we let fear talk us out of the whole deal instead of letting trust and faith take us to the end. Did you know that when you fail to last to the end of a test in life that you may be doomed to repeat it on some level until you pass? Who wants that? So many things are slipping through our hands and we think that life is “dishing us a raw deal”. The truth is that we will never make it until we endure the pain and make it through the test. Most times we will see that the victory was worth the trial, In addition, we will fare better in life due to the lessons we have learned along the way.
A marriage, a job, school, a new relationship, a dream…whatever it is don’t let the fear of completion get you down! Fight and push yourself to do your best every day. Don’t even worry about the days ahead. Go one day at a time. If that is too much, go one hour at a time. Just worry about the step in front of you, then take that step. I guarantee that your life will change for the better. Check it out for a few days and let me know what happens!
Look for specials in the upcoming months like THE MID MONTH MOTIVATOR. This may be a funny story or a historic post or just something motivating. It will be posted around the 15th of each month! See you soon! Be fabulous!
Brian John Thomas Watts
Education is the Key!
I grew up in St. Mary’s Park Houses in the South Bronx section of New York City. Yes, the PROJECTS!!!!!! The theme song from Good Times had many phrases that seemed to capture my existence. “Just lookin’ out of the window, watchin’ the asphalt grow. Thinkin’ how it all looks hand-me-down.” Although we lived in the projects, the projects did not live in us! Don’t get me wrong, we were not better than anyone else who lived in our neighborhood. We were all in the same predicament. So why did some of us have different outcomes? EDUCATION!
For me education was the key that opened the door to escape the ghetto of the South Bronx. But what is education? We all went to elementary school and high school. We all received diplomas (well, the majority of us did!). So what does education mean? Where does it begin? When does it end?
To me education is a wholistic system that begins at birth and ends at death. Education takes place EVERYWHERE. You can choose to learn or choose to ignore. Growing up, we were pushed to learn. The ABC Watts (Anita, Brian and Cornell) were in learning mode most of the time. When we watched the ABC After School Specials (remember those?), my mom would make us have a discussion after. We hated that, but it helped to develop our comprehension and verbal expression. My mother made sure we were in the library reading books whether we had an assignment from school or not. My mom had me adding up the prices of the groceries in the supermarket everytime she went shopping. My dad made me stay awake everytime he drove me somewhere and told me the names of every highway so I would know how to drive to certain places(even though he never let me drive!). My parents had us watching shows about places they could never take us. We had aspirations of making enough money to travel and experience things that were clearly out of our reach. At election time, we watched the debates and, at early ages, picked the candidate that made the most since to us. We learned to make decisions even though they didn’t count then. This was true education that, when coupled with our school education, made us ready for the world.
I know that some of you can “feel me” because you had a parent or parents like mine. But even if you didn’t, it is not too late to accept the choices to be educated. Every decision you make and every experience you have should educate you. If you fail a class, you should be educated on what to do or not do the next time. If your relationship fails, you should be able to recognize the qualities that were not compatible and how you can better respect an individual and/or be respected by an individual. Use everything as an educational experience…good and bad! This is not just the key to success, it will also keep you from repeating the same mistakes over and over again.
Do you agree? Let me know what you think?